Whatever happened in the past is in the past
Samantha Salas
Issue date: 12/5/07 Section: Opinion
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I love this quote: "What you need to know about the past is that no matter what has happened, it has all worked together to bring you to this very moment. And this is the moment you can choose to make everything new. Right now."
I've recently felt a calmness in my life, a recent change of heart that has altered a vision I once had. It's sometimes rare, but I think everyone can relate to this feeling of a perfectly clear, open mind.
We go through life, fulfilling our goals, searching for our destinies, striving for our dreams, and along the way we make choices, create memories and establish friendships. Maybe these friendships are with people you've met in kindergarten and taken the same elementary-through-high-school journey with, so keeping the friendship was easy.
Or maybe these are friends who you met outside of the comfort zone of high school - at work, an extracurricular activity or in college. I believe that anyone called a "friend" can be also be called "meaningful" at any point in someone's life.
And then there are the friends who you have a falling-out with for any number of possible reasons: an immature miscommunication, a boyfriend or girlfriend, another friend, a lie. I'm sure most of us can relate to this loss, sometimes insignificant and petty, or more severe than we can imagine.
Webster's Dictionary defines "friend" as a noun: "one who is not hostile; a favored companion; one attached to another by affection or esteem."
One attached to another by affection. Attached. Forever sometimes. And when a person loses that, it's hard to let go, or even let that person back in.
Well, I've recently crossed paths with someone, who, at one time, I considered a friend and had a falling out with. She and I met through a mutual love interest, though he was never really directly a cause of our falling out. It was combined emotions of jealousy, insecurity and rivalry that brought on our relationship's failure. And that was years ago. I haven't even spoken to her in at least three years.
I've recently felt a calmness in my life, a recent change of heart that has altered a vision I once had. It's sometimes rare, but I think everyone can relate to this feeling of a perfectly clear, open mind.
We go through life, fulfilling our goals, searching for our destinies, striving for our dreams, and along the way we make choices, create memories and establish friendships. Maybe these friendships are with people you've met in kindergarten and taken the same elementary-through-high-school journey with, so keeping the friendship was easy.
Or maybe these are friends who you met outside of the comfort zone of high school - at work, an extracurricular activity or in college. I believe that anyone called a "friend" can be also be called "meaningful" at any point in someone's life.
And then there are the friends who you have a falling-out with for any number of possible reasons: an immature miscommunication, a boyfriend or girlfriend, another friend, a lie. I'm sure most of us can relate to this loss, sometimes insignificant and petty, or more severe than we can imagine.
Webster's Dictionary defines "friend" as a noun: "one who is not hostile; a favored companion; one attached to another by affection or esteem."
One attached to another by affection. Attached. Forever sometimes. And when a person loses that, it's hard to let go, or even let that person back in.
Well, I've recently crossed paths with someone, who, at one time, I considered a friend and had a falling out with. She and I met through a mutual love interest, though he was never really directly a cause of our falling out. It was combined emotions of jealousy, insecurity and rivalry that brought on our relationship's failure. And that was years ago. I haven't even spoken to her in at least three years.
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